My girls are fierce. And other parenting lessons

My children are so very different. They are different from me and from Carlos. They are different than when I was a child. And they are most importantly, different from each other. My oldest daughter is very strong, very frugal, and very motherly. She is running her family and her life, she has everything figured out. She is the easiest. She always listens. It doesn’t mean she does exactly what we ask her to do. But she always listens. I used to spend hours talking with her about everything. From a very young age, she and I were the closest. But my kids have changed. ...

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  • May 31, 2013

They don’t understand me

Raising children. My children don’t always understand me. But I suppose that’s universal, regardless of parent/child, culture, country, or era. At different times, they understand me on different things. But now, no. they don’t understand the reason that I am writing this blog. I have three extraordinary children. My middle daughter is living with me currently. She knows I’m not flashy, I’m utilitarian. She sees my writing and my competition as play. We are all in the last stage of our lives: it’s now or never. My husband understands me the most, ...

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  • May 28, 2013

What was my daughter thinking? What was I thinking?

“What did the voicemail say? You left me this voicemail that simply said, ‘I‘m ok. But I fell. And I think I broke my leg.’ There was no, ‘call someone,’ or ‘I’ll be at such and such hospital,’ or anything. I was in California, and I couldn’t get a signal. You were in Missouri, all by yourself, and I’m picturing a desolate country gun range with no one in sight.” My daughters still remind me of my call. Mu husband wasn’t reachable because he en route to Florida, my oldest daughter was in California and my other daughter was leaving for China. ...

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  • May 25, 2013

Tiger mothers… for the greater good?

Tiger mothers, part II For my generation, we come from that kind of training. But my parents didn’t think that way. It was common knowledge that that was how you raised. You take up piano, you practice every day, even if you don’t like it. It was disciplinarian. I told my girls: if you like piano, if you love it: I will drive you, and I will pay: but you have to practice and love it. I will not sit next to you and force you to practice. Amy Chua’s view is not shocking to me. In some instance, maybe we will make a child who would not otherwise have any ...

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  • May 5, 2013