{"id":4882,"date":"2026-04-23T10:45:16","date_gmt":"2026-04-23T18:45:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/verakoo.com\/?p=4882"},"modified":"2026-04-09T11:01:11","modified_gmt":"2026-04-09T19:01:11","slug":"chinese-advice-for-women","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/verakoo.com\/zh_cn\/chinese-advice-for-women\/","title":{"rendered":"Chinese Advice for Women"},"content":{"rendered":"

In an interesting series of interviews, Michelle Cerino talks to former pro-shooter Vera Koo about topics that pertain to Vera\u2019s success and life story. Find out how Vera\u2019s advice about how to be a good Chinese wife could translate into modern day marriage tips.<\/em> This post, originally published at \u300a\u5973\u6027\u6237\u5916\u8fd0\u52a8\u65b0\u95fb\u300b<\/a>, can be read below.<\/em> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I<\/em>\u2019m always impressed and often surprised at the interesting information Vera Koo shares with me when we chat. This article is written from pieces within our conversation, which, although scattered throughout, all came back to the same topic. I wasn<\/em>\u2019t sure what to title it, or if it would make outsiders look negatively on the Chinese women of Vera<\/em>\u2019s generation. However, I strongly feel that it<\/em>\u2019s an important topic that shows how hard Vera<\/em>\u2019s generation had to work to get what they wanted, while at the same time honoring their mothers\u2019 advice and remaining devoted Chinese wives. Plus, there just might be a tidbit or more of Chinese advice that women of other generations may find helpful. ~ Michelle Cerino<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Chinese Advice for Women<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Below, you will read, in Vera\u2019s words, her Chinese advice to women.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stay Out of the Sun<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

In my culture, women of my generation don’t go out in the sun because we want our skin to be fair and smooth. I remember telling one of my Chinese friends how fun it was to go houseboating<\/a>, and at first, she was excited and said, \u201cI want to go houseboating!\u201d However, when I explained that you actually spend five days in your swimsuit, she asked, \u201cDoes that mean that you have to be under the sun?\u201d When I said, \u201cYes,\u201d she immediately replied that she wasn’t going. This reaction is common in my culture and my generation; women simply do not sunbathe. This helps explain why it\u2019s pretty common for Chinese women not to know how to swim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Vera applying sunscreen for the range<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

How to Appease a Chinese Husband<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

One of my girlfriends was interested in golfing, so she started lessons. The lessons were at 11 o’clock a few days a week. After a few weeks of lessons, her husband (who worked from home) told her he wanted her to keep him company at lunch instead of taking golf lessons. So she quit, when she could’ve actually rearranged her lessons to start earlier in the morning and still made it home in time for lunch. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This same friend\u2019s husband bought a 50-foot yacht. I told her she should take some boating classes to learn how to operate a boat. She needs to know everything about the boat and how to manage it. I knew her husband would support her by giving her the time and the money to take the classes. Now remember, I\u2019m talking about more than 30 years ago. I believed her husband would worship the ground she walked on if she took the class and helped him run the boat when they went out. Well, she didn\u2019t. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Vera and her family on a ski trip<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

This is what I tried to explain to other women of my race and generation. Go learn something your husband enjoys doing. My parents weren\u2019t athletes, so neither was I. When I married Carlos, I couldn\u2019t even do a push-up or sit-up, but he wanted to do all these athletic things. Before I got married, my mom said, \u201cIf your husband wants to do certain things, whatever they are, you want to make sure you keep him company.\u201d \u00a0I followed her advice.<\/a> Even though I was scared of downhill skiing, I skied every weekend for ten years during the season. Carlos was very patient in teaching me; he took me through all the moguls for four years. By the time I quit, around age 70, I could ski double-black diamonds. (Note: this designation, double-black diamond, is the most challenging slope rating.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Vera’s friends from her aerobics class<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Carlos traveled frequently for business when we were younger. So, when he was at home, I didn’t go out with my girlfriends; I canceled all my appointments and just stayed home with him. One day, I was getting ready for my aerobics class, which was at 8:30 in the morning. When I glanced up, I noticed Carlos did not have a happy look on his face. He was not pleased that I was going out when he was home. I thought about it. I was only leaving for two hours. I knew I needed to pick my battles, and I decided there was nothing wrong with me going out to exercise. So I fought for that, and he got used to it. This shows that 30- to 40-years ago, husbands in the Chinese culture didn’t like their wives doing anything other than what they wanted them to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Vera & Carlos\u2019 wedding photo August 1969<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Reflection<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

This is all about cultural and generational differences. What I shared, what my mom taught me, and what I tried to teach others would never happen to women now. I am grateful to my mom for many things, but three are most important. One, she gave me great advice. Two, I inherited my clean complexion from her (even with all the abuse I put on it, going out in the sun). And three, she was always looking for hope. She always knew everything would be all right. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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